煩惱因為強出頭

I should not disclose anything about Daniel's allowing restaurant staff to stay inhouse to Nicole who failed to anonymousize me [ I didn't intend to but she called me and asked me other stuff ]

I should not do ombud / church cos it doesn't make me "successful" even Danny is not doing this after he get well off..

煩惱因為強出頭

why Isabella still poor and struggle for living?強出頭

why Sherman buy another house after being a millionaire silently?? help only without 強出頭 and same as Monique who didn't come for years to our meeting!

do not help

do not help kitty anymore by
telling her to pray every day

just a story:"I pray for god everyday after I interview for the entry of the university. I firmly believe it works even the result is gone"

But Kitty said:"I am sad and upset cos what make you thinking that I am not giving my life to God."

I then cleaned up:"I use my own experience. I am wrong to judge other because I am not praying everyday." [I back off but this clearly says francis should back off from now]

helping citizens academy... scoring too much is hurtful but francis can't socialize and sweettalking always...

helping the church .?? vivian is mad, now kitty .. who really care? by heart?? [maybe by words more] ..

I have to dropped..

that is also why I tried not to join in since the beginning.. I am not good with group..

I don't like people controlling me.. telling me to do this/ that [so I work at graveyard and night auditing by myself]

daniel fong

08/08/07th

he will pay but he did not want to
even his parents take dessert here

I told his mum my selling script that
Big. doing restaurant business is a big thing
Legal. it has alot of legal paper and headache and money involved
Agent. Luckily Daniel has an agent/ a friend (for yrs) to ask
Company. [I skipped]
Me. I am the one who is older than him and gave him advice not to do it
promise. he didn't buy the restaurant and so now he is doing better.
Otherwise, he will definitely sell the restaurant after 1 yr or two especially this economy.

his pa got a stroke [ischemic] last year on 08/7
using 2nd son marriage may encourage the livingness of his pa
now his dad travel to US again
they firmly believe in God

「生命」意味著「價值」VALUE，生活則落實於「價格」PRICE。

生命與生活
劉荒田 2007年8月2日


在英語裡，life一詞，涵蓋了漢語中的「生命」和「生活」。洋鬼子把二者合而為一，他們認為，生命不可截然以善或惡來定義，生命是存在著善與惡的處所。生命之奧秘，不是非解透不可的，生活是你活著時的現實。把「生命」和「生活」分開，不知是不是中國人的精明處？這麼一分，一旦觸及「生命」一詞，便連帶想到靈魂、壽元、涅槃、禪，不能不坐直腰板，嚴陣以待；至於「生活」，那是柴米油鹽醬醋茶，是工資和分期付款，是早餐的油條，午餐的麥當奴，換季衣服和時尚雜誌。逐頁撕掉的日曆，是「生活」的葉子，一頁頁從生命樹飄下，帶著每一天的煩惱、期冀、歎息和笑。日曆上每每以筆寫下備忘：上午10時看牙醫，明早8點接機，報稅截期，今天付罰單……生命是生活的綜合、簡化和昇華，生活是生命的具體化，庸俗化，世俗化。

「生命」意味著「價值」，生活則落實於「價格」。生命務虛，生活務實。生命要玫瑰的香，生活卻先碰到玫瑰的刺。生命需要超越，動不動要飛揚九天之外，生活卻匍匐在地，為房子和兒女的學費灑汗費神；生命需要無限制的自由，生活卻步步設防，「天啊，老婆兒女，是天下的萬惡之源」(普希金語)；生命要永恆，生活在中年之後，總以高血壓和壞膽固醇指數破壞持蟄的雅興；生命是餐廳裡的燭光，生活是長途跋涉者的鞋子。生命和生活，是上帝按自己的形象製造出來的人的連體怪物，不可分離，也無休止地內訌。

生命和生活分家，使我們在「過日子」時，關注明天的股市行情M汽油價的漲幅，忽略生命的方向和流速。麻將台的洗牌聲，使你不復想起巴山夜雨漲秋池。生命和生活合成，教人關注精神層面的品質，追求超越。

有時我願意忘卻生命與生活的同一，好沉醉在「不知老之將至」的瑣屑趣味中；有時我願意清醒地注視在庸常日子中不著痕跡地溜走的生命，要審視它的腳印，看它有沒有排列在通向「無限」的路上。

生活可解，生命則無；生活有具體的形相，生命有籠統的概念；生活難以區分絕對的「值得」與否，生命在身後被墓志銘或青史稱量。

見人說人話，見鬼說鬼話 = 真理愈辯愈明嗎？

真理愈辯愈明嗎？
金鳳 2007年8月2日


以前所受的教育，是鼓勵與天鬥，與地鬥，與人鬥，而且還鬥得其樂無窮。其實鬥爭的結果許多是損人損己，兩敗俱傷的。

生活的經歷也告訴我，真理也未必就愈辯愈明，因為生活中許多事情是沒有絕對的真理和謬論之分的。

夫妻之間，婆媳之間，同事之間，鄰里之間，由於所處立場不同，看問題的觀點也就不同。為一件小事辯來辯去，各執己見，爭得面紅耳赤，有時還傷了和氣，實在不值得。

有幾件事我是不願和別人爭論的：第一，如果碰到台灣同胞，堅決避免討論簡體字好，還是繁體字好的話題，因為辯論的結果一定是各執己見，不歡而散；第二，由於自己不信教，不和基督徒討論死後升天堂或是下地獄的問題；第三，如果對方是大齡單身且明確表示過不願進入圍城，就堅決不宣揚世人皆知的婚姻帶來的100條好處；第四，如果別人沒有孩子，不論是出於選擇、誤了生育期，還是身體原因不能生育，也不要眉飛色舞地談論做母親有多麼偉大，沒有孩子的人生是多麼遺憾。

有時候，見人說人話，見鬼說鬼話，並不是見風使舵，逢迎獻媚，而是避免戰火，開創自己開心，別人高興的雙贏局面。

看到一些網站論壇，為宗教問題，政治問題，爭得劍拔弩張，老羞成怒，甚至不惜惡語相向，粗口相擊，就覺得實在沒有必要。有些問題是爭論不出個所以然的。

如果實在有話悶在肚子裡，不說出來憋得難受，那就和你志同道合的人談談，發發牢騷，紓解一下情緒就行了。