Stanford Report, June 14, 2005
'You've got to find what you love,' Jobs says
This is the text of the Commencement address by Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, delivered on June 12, 2005.
I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I've ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That's it. No big deal. Just three stories.
The first story is about connecting the dots.
I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?
It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: "We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?" They said: "Of course." My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.
And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents' savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn't see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn't interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.
It wasn't all romantic. I didn't have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends' rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:
Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn't have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can't capture, and I found it fascinating.
None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, its likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.
Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.
My second story is about love and loss.
I was lucky — I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation — the Macintosh — a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.
I really didn't know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down - that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me — I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.
I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.
During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple's current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.
I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.
My third story is about death.
When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.
Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.
About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn't even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor's code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you'd have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.
I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I'm fine now.
This was the closest I've been to facing death, and I hope its the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:
No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.
Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.
When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960's, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.
Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: "Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish." It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.
Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.
Thank you all very much.
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
涉足澳門賭業 涉足澳門賭業
輪胎大王全家燒炭亡
遺書稱犯下大錯 稚子無辜陪死 2008年9月10日
廣 告
【明報專訊】本港十大輪胎代理商之一、峰柏有限公司董事總經理梁國鴻夫婦及其兩歲大兒子，昨晨被發現在粉嶺坪輋豪華大宅的衣帽間中相擁燒炭昏迷，一家三口送院搶救後返魂乏術。男死者留給家人的遺書稱「犯下大錯」要自己解決，妻子決意相隨，更無視稚子意願，認為兒子「跟他們最幸福」。警方指梁國鴻的遺書報稱因頑疾纏身尋死，調查後將案件列為兇殺及自殺案處理。
另一遺書稱患病 行內傳涉足賭場生意
倫常慘劇的死者為男戶主梁國鴻(59歲)，他一頭銀髮，行家均稱他為「白頭梁」；其第二任妻子方月華(41歲)；以及尚有6日便足3歲的兒子梁子豪。有街坊稱子豪身體似有缺陷，懷疑父母不捨得他獨留世上而幹出傻事。梁國鴻是東洋輪胎(TOYO)香港總代理峰柏有限公司的董事總經理，是本港十大輪胎代理商之一，其前妻及部分家人早已移居加拿大。行內消息稱，梁近年涉足澳門賭業，但近期生意不景，涉足澳門賭業。
邊境區刑事總督察唐耀宗表示，警方在別墅的茶几上檢獲兩封遺書，男戶主在一封遺書裏透露因頑疾纏身而萌生死念；梁家並無家庭暴力紀錄。據知，家人並不知梁患有惡疾，公司職員亦稱，梁經常運動及打高球，不似身體有病，公司業務亦上了軌道，應沒有經濟問題。邊界警區重案組會循事主的背景及財政等多方面追查，了解梁是因病厭世，還是受其他問題困擾。
現場消息稱，梁國鴻在另一封留給家人的遺書內，表示自己「犯下大錯」，妻子決意相隨，兩人商量後，更認為幼子「跟父母最幸福」(見另稿)。梁又在遺書中詳細交代了身後事、遺產及公司業務的安排等。
慘案現場為打鼓嶺坪輋村505號獨立3層高新裝修的豪華大宅，四周有10呎高圍牆，內有5000多呎的花園，並有小型泳池及錦鯉池，泊有多輛車牌同為6696的名貴房車。大宅旁邊的一個貨倉，亦是梁國鴻的公司自資擁有。梁氏一家三口居於大宅的2樓，其胞姊及家人則居於3樓。
清楚交代後事 財產首飾已轉親友
案件揭發於昨晨7時30分，梁的60歲胞姊晨運完畢落樓，在胞弟的房外發現有一包炭，房門被反鎖，拍門良久無人應門，深感不妙，用後備匙開門，發現內裏空無一人，多件衣衫遭亂棄在邊，她想打開衣帽間查看卻打不開，遂叫工人用鐵筆將門撬開，赫然發現胞弟一家三口相擁昏迷在內。
警員及救護員趕到將3人送院，經搶救後不治。
警員在房內的茶几上發現遺書，梁姊事後亦在自己房間的門口發現一個公文袋，內有遺書清楚交代他已變賣全部首飾，以及將現金財物、公司等交託或轉交親友處理。
大律師：債主不能向家人追討
大律師陸偉雄表示，從法律角度而言，若有人「處心積慮」在自殺前將財產轉名或交予親人，以免死後財產會被債主取去，這種行為在法律上是「無犯法」，因法律上債務是「跟人」，當欠債人死後，除非家屬在死者借貸時出任擔保人，否則債主不能向死者家屬追債。
遺書稱犯下大錯 稚子無辜陪死 2008年9月10日
廣 告
【明報專訊】本港十大輪胎代理商之一、峰柏有限公司董事總經理梁國鴻夫婦及其兩歲大兒子，昨晨被發現在粉嶺坪輋豪華大宅的衣帽間中相擁燒炭昏迷，一家三口送院搶救後返魂乏術。男死者留給家人的遺書稱「犯下大錯」要自己解決，妻子決意相隨，更無視稚子意願，認為兒子「跟他們最幸福」。警方指梁國鴻的遺書報稱因頑疾纏身尋死，調查後將案件列為兇殺及自殺案處理。
另一遺書稱患病 行內傳涉足賭場生意
倫常慘劇的死者為男戶主梁國鴻(59歲)，他一頭銀髮，行家均稱他為「白頭梁」；其第二任妻子方月華(41歲)；以及尚有6日便足3歲的兒子梁子豪。有街坊稱子豪身體似有缺陷，懷疑父母不捨得他獨留世上而幹出傻事。梁國鴻是東洋輪胎(TOYO)香港總代理峰柏有限公司的董事總經理，是本港十大輪胎代理商之一，其前妻及部分家人早已移居加拿大。行內消息稱，梁近年涉足澳門賭業，但近期生意不景，涉足澳門賭業。
邊境區刑事總督察唐耀宗表示，警方在別墅的茶几上檢獲兩封遺書，男戶主在一封遺書裏透露因頑疾纏身而萌生死念；梁家並無家庭暴力紀錄。據知，家人並不知梁患有惡疾，公司職員亦稱，梁經常運動及打高球，不似身體有病，公司業務亦上了軌道，應沒有經濟問題。邊界警區重案組會循事主的背景及財政等多方面追查，了解梁是因病厭世，還是受其他問題困擾。
現場消息稱，梁國鴻在另一封留給家人的遺書內，表示自己「犯下大錯」，妻子決意相隨，兩人商量後，更認為幼子「跟父母最幸福」(見另稿)。梁又在遺書中詳細交代了身後事、遺產及公司業務的安排等。
慘案現場為打鼓嶺坪輋村505號獨立3層高新裝修的豪華大宅，四周有10呎高圍牆，內有5000多呎的花園，並有小型泳池及錦鯉池，泊有多輛車牌同為6696的名貴房車。大宅旁邊的一個貨倉，亦是梁國鴻的公司自資擁有。梁氏一家三口居於大宅的2樓，其胞姊及家人則居於3樓。
清楚交代後事 財產首飾已轉親友
案件揭發於昨晨7時30分，梁的60歲胞姊晨運完畢落樓，在胞弟的房外發現有一包炭，房門被反鎖，拍門良久無人應門，深感不妙，用後備匙開門，發現內裏空無一人，多件衣衫遭亂棄在邊，她想打開衣帽間查看卻打不開，遂叫工人用鐵筆將門撬開，赫然發現胞弟一家三口相擁昏迷在內。
警員及救護員趕到將3人送院，經搶救後不治。
警員在房內的茶几上發現遺書，梁姊事後亦在自己房間的門口發現一個公文袋，內有遺書清楚交代他已變賣全部首飾，以及將現金財物、公司等交託或轉交親友處理。
大律師：債主不能向家人追討
大律師陸偉雄表示，從法律角度而言，若有人「處心積慮」在自殺前將財產轉名或交予親人，以免死後財產會被債主取去，這種行為在法律上是「無犯法」，因法律上債務是「跟人」，當欠債人死後，除非家屬在死者借貸時出任擔保人，否則債主不能向死者家屬追債。
Tuesday, August 26, 2008
good speech clinton
Analysis: A perfect night for Clinton, Obama? By RON FOURNIER, Associated Press Writer
1 hour, 48 minutes ago
DENVER - For one evening, their political world was perfect. Or so it seemed.
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Standing before thousands of delegates, almost half of them her backers, Sen. Hillary Rodham Clinton declared it time "to unite as a single party with a single purpose" and urged her followers to help elect once-bitter rival Barack Obama. "We are on the same team," she said, after allowing the applause to build to a crescendo and linger, longer than usual — much like the Democratic primary race itself.
"Barack Obama is my candidate," she said. "And he must be our president."
But did she mean it? And would it matter?
True, her challenges Tuesday night were impossibly high, perhaps mutually exclusive.
She had to both promote her political future and unify her party. Clinton had to somehow convince people that she honestly thought Obama was ready for the presidency. But something stood in her way: Her words.
_Dec. 3, 2007: "So you decide which makes more sense: Entrust our country to someone who is ready on Day One ... or to put America in the hands of someone with little national or international experience, who started running for president the day he arrived in the U.S. Senate."
_March 2008. "I know Sen. McCain has a lifetime of experience that he will bring to the White House. And Sen. Obama has a speech he gave in 2002."
_Feb. 23, 2008: "Now, I could stand up here and say, 'Let's just get everybody together. Let's get unified.' The skies will open, the light will come down, celestial choirs will be singing and everyone will know we should do the right thing and the world will be perfect."
There in no such thing as a perfect world, though the Clinton and Obama image teams tried their best to create one. Hundreds of "Hillary" signs danced before the TV cameras, bearing her breezy blue signature. Her misty-eyed husband, former President Clinton, watched from above.
By the time she was done, Sen. Clinton had delivered a strong, convincing affirmation of Obama and, just as importantly, a thumping of McCain. She did her part. Her husband takes the stage Wednesday and then Obama must make his case to the American people that he will be ready on Day One.
That there's more to him than a single speech.
That he's the perfect man for troubled times. She brought the party together, for one night anyway, and now it's up to Obama to close the deal with voters.
Unlike Obama, she no longer needs to worry about her favorability ratings so there was no pulling punches.
"No way," Clinton said. "No how. No McCain."
She said McCain would be an extension of the Bush administration. No jobs. Poor health care coverage. High gas prices. Home foreclosures. "More war," she said, "Less diplomacy. More of a government where the privileged comes first, and everyone else come last."
In other words, Clinton seemed to say, even if Obama is everything she said during the campaign, he's still a better candidate than McCain. The speech was as much of an attack on McCain as it was an embrace of Obama. "We don't need four more years of the last eight years," she said.
The crowd, Obama and Clinton delegates alike, loved it.
She took the high road Tuesday night because it was also her best road politically; if Obama wins, she still emerges as a central voice in American liberalism, replacing the ailing Sen. Edward Kennedy. And if Obama loses, as Hillary said he would during the campaign, she is blameless and the party can turn back to her without guilt in four years.
Behind the scenes Tuesday, the Obama and Clinton camps struck a tentative deal that would allow some states to cast votes in a roll call before somebody — possibly Clinton herself — cuts short the tally and asks the convention to nominate Obama by unanimous consent. This was her price for ending her historic bid for the presidency in a manner that, however messy, still left Obama in a stronger position than Kennedy left Jimmy Carter in 1980, when the Massachusetts senator extracted platform concessions and shrank from the traditional unity show at the final gavel.
But she did extract her price.
The bill came due Tuesday. The crowd. The applause. The promise of a vote Wednesday, and a speech laced 17 times by some variation of the pronoun "I."
"You never gave up," Clinton told her delegates, a phrase that so perfectly fits her. "You never gave up. And together we made history."
1 hour, 48 minutes ago
DENVER - For one evening, their political world was perfect. Or so it seemed.
ADVERTISEMENT
Standing before thousands of delegates, almost half of them her backers, Sen. Hillary Rodham Clinton declared it time "to unite as a single party with a single purpose" and urged her followers to help elect once-bitter rival Barack Obama. "We are on the same team," she said, after allowing the applause to build to a crescendo and linger, longer than usual — much like the Democratic primary race itself.
"Barack Obama is my candidate," she said. "And he must be our president."
But did she mean it? And would it matter?
True, her challenges Tuesday night were impossibly high, perhaps mutually exclusive.
She had to both promote her political future and unify her party. Clinton had to somehow convince people that she honestly thought Obama was ready for the presidency. But something stood in her way: Her words.
_Dec. 3, 2007: "So you decide which makes more sense: Entrust our country to someone who is ready on Day One ... or to put America in the hands of someone with little national or international experience, who started running for president the day he arrived in the U.S. Senate."
_March 2008. "I know Sen. McCain has a lifetime of experience that he will bring to the White House. And Sen. Obama has a speech he gave in 2002."
_Feb. 23, 2008: "Now, I could stand up here and say, 'Let's just get everybody together. Let's get unified.' The skies will open, the light will come down, celestial choirs will be singing and everyone will know we should do the right thing and the world will be perfect."
There in no such thing as a perfect world, though the Clinton and Obama image teams tried their best to create one. Hundreds of "Hillary" signs danced before the TV cameras, bearing her breezy blue signature. Her misty-eyed husband, former President Clinton, watched from above.
By the time she was done, Sen. Clinton had delivered a strong, convincing affirmation of Obama and, just as importantly, a thumping of McCain. She did her part. Her husband takes the stage Wednesday and then Obama must make his case to the American people that he will be ready on Day One.
That there's more to him than a single speech.
That he's the perfect man for troubled times. She brought the party together, for one night anyway, and now it's up to Obama to close the deal with voters.
Unlike Obama, she no longer needs to worry about her favorability ratings so there was no pulling punches.
"No way," Clinton said. "No how. No McCain."
She said McCain would be an extension of the Bush administration. No jobs. Poor health care coverage. High gas prices. Home foreclosures. "More war," she said, "Less diplomacy. More of a government where the privileged comes first, and everyone else come last."
In other words, Clinton seemed to say, even if Obama is everything she said during the campaign, he's still a better candidate than McCain. The speech was as much of an attack on McCain as it was an embrace of Obama. "We don't need four more years of the last eight years," she said.
The crowd, Obama and Clinton delegates alike, loved it.
She took the high road Tuesday night because it was also her best road politically; if Obama wins, she still emerges as a central voice in American liberalism, replacing the ailing Sen. Edward Kennedy. And if Obama loses, as Hillary said he would during the campaign, she is blameless and the party can turn back to her without guilt in four years.
Behind the scenes Tuesday, the Obama and Clinton camps struck a tentative deal that would allow some states to cast votes in a roll call before somebody — possibly Clinton herself — cuts short the tally and asks the convention to nominate Obama by unanimous consent. This was her price for ending her historic bid for the presidency in a manner that, however messy, still left Obama in a stronger position than Kennedy left Jimmy Carter in 1980, when the Massachusetts senator extracted platform concessions and shrank from the traditional unity show at the final gavel.
But she did extract her price.
The bill came due Tuesday. The crowd. The applause. The promise of a vote Wednesday, and a speech laced 17 times by some variation of the pronoun "I."
"You never gave up," Clinton told her delegates, a phrase that so perfectly fits her. "You never gave up. And together we made history."
Thursday, August 21, 2008
no gambling=因打麻將爭執而「出口傷人」！
打麻將爭執「出口傷人」
(星島)8月22日 星期五 05:30
(綜合報道)
(星島日報 報道)筲箕灣 有人因打麻將爭執而「出口傷人」！三名成年人，獲好心「契媽」收留，以極廉宜租金和生活費約一千元同住筲箕灣東大街一單位。昨午三人偕一名姓林新住客打麻將時爭執，其間林手臂被咬傷，姓鍾女住客因不滿被人推撞報警，無人送院。
四名住客同住筲箕灣東大街一大廈住宅。上址為七十多歲、宣道會義工婆婆馮蘇妹的私人物業。她將住宅化身成廉價「安樂窩」，為有需要人士提供起居飲食服務。該單位三房一廳，客廳置有碌架牀，月租只需千多元。
但近日一位姓林男住客，經宣道會介紹免費遷入居住後，三十五歲姓鍾女住客對陌生人感不安，又投訴該住客常到她的房間搗亂，多番向「契媽」馮婆婆抱怨，表明「唔想有新人入嚟住」。
至昨午一時許，有人於上址打牌，其間鍾林二人爭執。混亂中鍾被人推撞，林的手臂被咬傷，鍾不滿報警。林拒絕送院，二人經警方調停後和解。馮婆婆聞訊趕至現場了解情況，認為事件純粹誤會，望息事寧人。
記者 張榮光
(星島)8月22日 星期五 05:30
(綜合報道)
(星島日報 報道)筲箕灣 有人因打麻將爭執而「出口傷人」！三名成年人，獲好心「契媽」收留，以極廉宜租金和生活費約一千元同住筲箕灣東大街一單位。昨午三人偕一名姓林新住客打麻將時爭執，其間林手臂被咬傷，姓鍾女住客因不滿被人推撞報警，無人送院。
四名住客同住筲箕灣東大街一大廈住宅。上址為七十多歲、宣道會義工婆婆馮蘇妹的私人物業。她將住宅化身成廉價「安樂窩」，為有需要人士提供起居飲食服務。該單位三房一廳，客廳置有碌架牀，月租只需千多元。
但近日一位姓林男住客，經宣道會介紹免費遷入居住後，三十五歲姓鍾女住客對陌生人感不安，又投訴該住客常到她的房間搗亂，多番向「契媽」馮婆婆抱怨，表明「唔想有新人入嚟住」。
至昨午一時許，有人於上址打牌，其間鍾林二人爭執。混亂中鍾被人推撞，林的手臂被咬傷，鍾不滿報警。林拒絕送院，二人經警方調停後和解。馮婆婆聞訊趕至現場了解情況，認為事件純粹誤會，望息事寧人。
記者 張榮光
no gambling pls =欠下十多萬元債項無法償還
欠十多萬波債 夫妻曾爭吵 爛賭父抱三歲女燒炭死
(星島)8月22日 星期五 05:30
(綜合報道)
(星島日報 報道)沉迷賭波的一名男子，疑因欠下十多萬元債項無法償還，在屯門 富健花園住所擁着三歲獨女燒炭，昨午其妻下班返家赫見丈夫與女兒昏迷睡房，驚惶報警，兩父女抵院同告不治，警方已將案列自殺及謀殺案處理，正調查男事主與女兒共赴黃泉的動機。
喪生父女分別楊國輝（三十三歲）及楊翠婷（三歲兩個月），楊兩年前與姓林（二十八歲）妻子，購入屯門龍門路富健花園第十一座九樓一單位，他任運輸散工，妻子則於區內一間便利店做兼職。
昨晨八時三十分，楊妻外出往便利店上班，至三時許返家，入屋後發現睡房反鎖，相信丈夫及幼女在房內，於是利用鎖匙開門，甫入房卻二人昏迷牀上，地上留下一盆已熄滅的炭灰，懷疑丈夫擁女兒尋死，馬上報警。
兩父女由救護員急送往屯門醫院 ，經搶救後證實返魂乏術，仵工後來將屍體舁送殮房處理。警方事後派出大批警員到場，封鎖現場單位調查，晚上將一批證物帶走。
楊妻協助警方調查時透露，丈夫有賭波習慣，近日欠下十多萬元債項，一直無力清還，據稱兩夫婦曾為此發生爭吵。昨晨楊妻離家上班未有異樣，亦未察覺丈夫有尋死意圖。
連累無辜子女極錯誤
屯門警區刑事總督察周德財表示，初步調查相信男事主欠債而萌生死念，至於為何禍及女兒則需深入了解，警方將案列自殺及謀殺案調查。
明愛向晴軒 督導主任郭志英認為任何人遇上經濟問題，都應積極尋求解決辦法，連累無辜子女是極之錯誤的決定，罪名等同謀殺；她又指不少男士礙於面子或尊嚴，拒絕向外界求助令問題難以解決，因而呼籲無論遇上那些困難，應盡早與伴侶親人商量，或向社工或志願團體求助。記者 尹敬堂
(星島)8月22日 星期五 05:30
(綜合報道)
(星島日報 報道)沉迷賭波的一名男子，疑因欠下十多萬元債項無法償還，在屯門 富健花園住所擁着三歲獨女燒炭，昨午其妻下班返家赫見丈夫與女兒昏迷睡房，驚惶報警，兩父女抵院同告不治，警方已將案列自殺及謀殺案處理，正調查男事主與女兒共赴黃泉的動機。
喪生父女分別楊國輝（三十三歲）及楊翠婷（三歲兩個月），楊兩年前與姓林（二十八歲）妻子，購入屯門龍門路富健花園第十一座九樓一單位，他任運輸散工，妻子則於區內一間便利店做兼職。
昨晨八時三十分，楊妻外出往便利店上班，至三時許返家，入屋後發現睡房反鎖，相信丈夫及幼女在房內，於是利用鎖匙開門，甫入房卻二人昏迷牀上，地上留下一盆已熄滅的炭灰，懷疑丈夫擁女兒尋死，馬上報警。
兩父女由救護員急送往屯門醫院 ，經搶救後證實返魂乏術，仵工後來將屍體舁送殮房處理。警方事後派出大批警員到場，封鎖現場單位調查，晚上將一批證物帶走。
楊妻協助警方調查時透露，丈夫有賭波習慣，近日欠下十多萬元債項，一直無力清還，據稱兩夫婦曾為此發生爭吵。昨晨楊妻離家上班未有異樣，亦未察覺丈夫有尋死意圖。
連累無辜子女極錯誤
屯門警區刑事總督察周德財表示，初步調查相信男事主欠債而萌生死念，至於為何禍及女兒則需深入了解，警方將案列自殺及謀殺案調查。
明愛向晴軒 督導主任郭志英認為任何人遇上經濟問題，都應積極尋求解決辦法，連累無辜子女是極之錯誤的決定，罪名等同謀殺；她又指不少男士礙於面子或尊嚴，拒絕向外界求助令問題難以解決，因而呼籲無論遇上那些困難，應盡早與伴侶親人商量，或向社工或志願團體求助。記者 尹敬堂
Sunday, June 15, 2008
和平繁榮、相互尊重、建立互信、共創榮景
焦點/胡錦濤贈兩會16字箴言 突出平等協商
【星島網訊】中共中央總書記胡錦濤13日在北京會見海基會董事長江丙坤時表示，希望海協海基兩會今後在商談中做到“平等協商、善意溝通、積累共識、務實進取”。
江丙坤以馬英九的兩岸十六字方針回應，最後提出台灣將以“和平繁榮、相互尊重、建立互信、共創榮景”做為兩岸共同的願景，開創新局面。
《中國時報》報道，胡錦濤特別進一步詮釋上述十六字的意義，“平等協商，就是在商談中雙方要平等相待，不把自己的意志強加於對方；善意溝通，就是在商談中充分考慮對方的實際情況，多從善意的角度理解對方的想法，消除不必要的疑慮；積累共識，就是要不斷擴大共識，縮小分歧，這樣才能取得更大成果；務實進取，就是要實事求是地尋求雙方都能接受的解決辦法，真正解決問題，做到行穩致遠。
”
胡錦濤說，兩岸兩會在“九二共識”基礎上復談並取得實際成果，標誌著新形勢下兩岸關係改善和發展有了良好開端，表明雙方有智慧有能力通過協商談判解決有關問題。
兩岸目前比以往任何時候都更有條件攜手合作、共同發展。
協商談判是實現兩岸關係和平發展的必由之路。
江丙坤則說，台灣政治形勢發生變化，兩岸有必要根據1992年達成的共識，儘快恢復協商。
兩會為此互致函電，構成恢復商談的基礎。
兩會恢復協商並就兩岸週末包機和大陸居民赴臺旅遊兩項議題達成協定，為兩岸交流寫下歷史新頁。
他說，兩岸民眾同屬中華民族，相信通過兩岸雙方共同努力，兩岸關係必然可以重新出發，步入合作雙贏的良性迴圈。
兩岸經濟要持續發展，今後應推動兩岸經濟整合，實現互補雙贏的目標。
江丙坤表示，兩岸關係走走停停，癥結在雙方互信基礎不夠。
如今兩岸領導人都願意客觀看待歷史遺留下來的問題，從務實出發，“正視現實、開創未來、擱置爭議、追求雙贏”，推進兩岸良性互動。
在這個理念下，互惠雙贏的成效將會不斷地開花結果，互信基礎也會逐步累積。
江丙坤說，過去幾年以來，兩岸關係起起伏伏，雖經各方努力，卻未能促成兩岸有效的對話與協商。
由於今年情勢轉變，海基會于5月26日提議希望在“九二共識”的基礎上，儘速恢復兩岸兩會的協商，稍後也獲得大陸海協會的正面響應，並獲邀請來訪，開創了雙方重啟制度化協商的契機。
江丙坤最後也強調，台灣將以“和平繁榮、相互尊重、建立互信、共創榮景”做為兩岸共同的願景，相信今後透過兩岸領導人的智慧與決心，以及雙方共同努力，兩岸關係必然可以重新出發，步入合作雙贏的良性迴圈，開創另一個嶄新的局面。
同時，兩岸兩會能夠復談，則是本世紀兩岸關係發展的重要里程碑，會談簽署了攸關兩岸民眾權益的兩項協議，並達成若干共識，既符合兩岸人民及國際社會對恢復對話的高度期待，對緩和區域緊張也具有重要意義。
胡錦濤則強調，應該緊緊抓住和切實用好兩岸關係發展面臨的難得歷史機遇，珍惜和維護兩會交往商談的政治基礎，積極務實地解決存在問題，努力開創兩岸關係和平發展新局面，共同為實現中華民族偉大復興而奮鬥。
胡錦濤說，兩項協議的實施，有利於增進兩岸同胞往來和交流，有利於于推動兩岸直接三通，有利於擴大兩岸互利合作。
“建立互信、擱置爭議、求同存異、共創雙贏”的主張，已經得到兩岸雙方的認同，兩岸應該把這一精神貫徹于兩會商談之中。
1998年10月18日，中共前總書記江澤民即曾在“釣魚臺國賓館”四季廳會見海基會董事長辜振甫，經過近十年後，兩岸兩會復談，中共總書記胡錦濤在釣魚臺國賓館同一場地接見海基會新任董事長江丙坤，象徵兩岸復談具有承先啟後的意義。
星島環球網
2008-06-14
【星島網訊】中共中央總書記胡錦濤13日在北京會見海基會董事長江丙坤時表示，希望海協海基兩會今後在商談中做到“平等協商、善意溝通、積累共識、務實進取”。
江丙坤以馬英九的兩岸十六字方針回應，最後提出台灣將以“和平繁榮、相互尊重、建立互信、共創榮景”做為兩岸共同的願景，開創新局面。
《中國時報》報道，胡錦濤特別進一步詮釋上述十六字的意義，“平等協商，就是在商談中雙方要平等相待，不把自己的意志強加於對方；善意溝通，就是在商談中充分考慮對方的實際情況，多從善意的角度理解對方的想法，消除不必要的疑慮；積累共識，就是要不斷擴大共識，縮小分歧，這樣才能取得更大成果；務實進取，就是要實事求是地尋求雙方都能接受的解決辦法，真正解決問題，做到行穩致遠。
”
胡錦濤說，兩岸兩會在“九二共識”基礎上復談並取得實際成果，標誌著新形勢下兩岸關係改善和發展有了良好開端，表明雙方有智慧有能力通過協商談判解決有關問題。
兩岸目前比以往任何時候都更有條件攜手合作、共同發展。
協商談判是實現兩岸關係和平發展的必由之路。
江丙坤則說，台灣政治形勢發生變化，兩岸有必要根據1992年達成的共識，儘快恢復協商。
兩會為此互致函電，構成恢復商談的基礎。
兩會恢復協商並就兩岸週末包機和大陸居民赴臺旅遊兩項議題達成協定，為兩岸交流寫下歷史新頁。
他說，兩岸民眾同屬中華民族，相信通過兩岸雙方共同努力，兩岸關係必然可以重新出發，步入合作雙贏的良性迴圈。
兩岸經濟要持續發展，今後應推動兩岸經濟整合，實現互補雙贏的目標。
江丙坤表示，兩岸關係走走停停，癥結在雙方互信基礎不夠。
如今兩岸領導人都願意客觀看待歷史遺留下來的問題，從務實出發，“正視現實、開創未來、擱置爭議、追求雙贏”，推進兩岸良性互動。
在這個理念下，互惠雙贏的成效將會不斷地開花結果，互信基礎也會逐步累積。
江丙坤說，過去幾年以來，兩岸關係起起伏伏，雖經各方努力，卻未能促成兩岸有效的對話與協商。
由於今年情勢轉變，海基會于5月26日提議希望在“九二共識”的基礎上，儘速恢復兩岸兩會的協商，稍後也獲得大陸海協會的正面響應，並獲邀請來訪，開創了雙方重啟制度化協商的契機。
江丙坤最後也強調，台灣將以“和平繁榮、相互尊重、建立互信、共創榮景”做為兩岸共同的願景，相信今後透過兩岸領導人的智慧與決心，以及雙方共同努力，兩岸關係必然可以重新出發，步入合作雙贏的良性迴圈，開創另一個嶄新的局面。
同時，兩岸兩會能夠復談，則是本世紀兩岸關係發展的重要里程碑，會談簽署了攸關兩岸民眾權益的兩項協議，並達成若干共識，既符合兩岸人民及國際社會對恢復對話的高度期待，對緩和區域緊張也具有重要意義。
胡錦濤則強調，應該緊緊抓住和切實用好兩岸關係發展面臨的難得歷史機遇，珍惜和維護兩會交往商談的政治基礎，積極務實地解決存在問題，努力開創兩岸關係和平發展新局面，共同為實現中華民族偉大復興而奮鬥。
胡錦濤說，兩項協議的實施，有利於增進兩岸同胞往來和交流，有利於于推動兩岸直接三通，有利於擴大兩岸互利合作。
“建立互信、擱置爭議、求同存異、共創雙贏”的主張，已經得到兩岸雙方的認同，兩岸應該把這一精神貫徹于兩會商談之中。
1998年10月18日，中共前總書記江澤民即曾在“釣魚臺國賓館”四季廳會見海基會董事長辜振甫，經過近十年後，兩岸兩會復談，中共總書記胡錦濤在釣魚臺國賓館同一場地接見海基會新任董事長江丙坤，象徵兩岸復談具有承先啟後的意義。
星島環球網
2008-06-14
堅定理想信念、要勤奮刻苦學習、要勇於艱苦創業、要培養高尚品德
胡錦濤向全國青年提出四點希望
【星島網訊】中共中央總書記、中國國家主席、中央軍委主席胡錦濤14日上午在中南海向青年提出了要堅定理想信念、要勤奮刻苦學習、要勇於艱苦創業、要培養高尚品德的四點希望；對共青團幹部提出政治要過硬、作風要紮實、自律要嚴格的三點要求。
據新華網報道，胡錦濤是在與同中國共青團中央新一屆領導班子成員和團十六大部分座談時作如上表示的。
中共中央政治局常委李長春，中共中央政治局常委、中央書記處書記、國家副主席習近平出席了座談會。
胡錦濤高度評價了青年在中國革命、建設、改革的偉大進程中創造的輝煌業績。
胡錦濤特別指出，在最近的抗震救災鬥爭中，廣大青年表現出頑強的奮鬥意志和崇高的奉獻精神，涌現出許多可歌可泣的感人事跡，為奪取抗震救災鬥爭勝利作出了重要貢獻。
實踐充分證明，在改革開放偉大進程中成長起來的當代中國青年是值得信賴的，是能擔當重任的。
胡錦濤在座談會向全國廣大青年提出四點希望：一是要堅定理想信念。
廣大青年要認真學習馬克思列寧主義、毛澤東思想、鄧小平理論和“三個代表”重要思想，認真學習科學發展觀，深刻理解中國特色社會主義理論體系，努力用馬克思主義中國化最新成果武裝頭腦，確立起正確的世界觀、人生觀、價值觀；二是要勤奮刻苦學習。
廣大青年要在學習上下更大的氣力，要努力打牢知識基礎，要努力拓展世界眼光，要努力參加社會實踐，把“讀萬卷書”與“行萬里路”結合起來，真正成為既學識廣博又能幹實事的新一代建設人才。
三是要勇於艱苦創業。
廣大青年要煥發創業熱情和創造活力，在改革開放和社會主義現代化建設中建功立業；四是要培養高尚品德。
廣大青年要緊緊圍繞建設社會主義核心價值體系，積極參與和諧文化建設，要自覺傳承中華民族傳統美德，使中華文化的優秀傳統代代相傳，使黨和人民在長期奮鬥中形成的光榮傳統薪火永續。
胡錦濤強調，在現階段，党需要共青團更好地團結帶領廣大團員青年，各級團組織一定要發揚“党有號召、團有行動”的優良傳統，把廣大青年緊緊團結在党的周圍，為實現党的任務努力奮鬥，保證党的事業興旺發達、後繼有人。
胡錦濤對團幹部提出三點要求：一是政治上要過硬；二是作風上要紮實；三是自律上要嚴格，著力加強自身修養，從嚴要求，防微杜漸，經得住誘惑，管得住小節，切實走好人生的每一步。
座談會前，胡錦濤等中國中央領導同志來到代表們中間，同他們一一握手、交談。
馬曉燕代表是四川省北川羌族自治縣團委書記，這次大地震發生後，她強忍失去親人的悲痛，組織團員青年營救被困人員，夜以繼日地轉移災民。
胡錦濤動情地對她說，你在這次抗震救災中表現得非常突出。
回去以後，請轉達我對災區廣大團員青年的親切問候。
希望災區各級團組織積極帶領廣大團員青年，在恢復重建中繼續發揮生力軍和突擊隊作用，為黨和人民再立新功。
星島環球網
2008-06-15
【星島網訊】中共中央總書記、中國國家主席、中央軍委主席胡錦濤14日上午在中南海向青年提出了要堅定理想信念、要勤奮刻苦學習、要勇於艱苦創業、要培養高尚品德的四點希望；對共青團幹部提出政治要過硬、作風要紮實、自律要嚴格的三點要求。
據新華網報道，胡錦濤是在與同中國共青團中央新一屆領導班子成員和團十六大部分座談時作如上表示的。
中共中央政治局常委李長春，中共中央政治局常委、中央書記處書記、國家副主席習近平出席了座談會。
胡錦濤高度評價了青年在中國革命、建設、改革的偉大進程中創造的輝煌業績。
胡錦濤特別指出，在最近的抗震救災鬥爭中，廣大青年表現出頑強的奮鬥意志和崇高的奉獻精神，涌現出許多可歌可泣的感人事跡，為奪取抗震救災鬥爭勝利作出了重要貢獻。
實踐充分證明，在改革開放偉大進程中成長起來的當代中國青年是值得信賴的，是能擔當重任的。
胡錦濤在座談會向全國廣大青年提出四點希望：一是要堅定理想信念。
廣大青年要認真學習馬克思列寧主義、毛澤東思想、鄧小平理論和“三個代表”重要思想，認真學習科學發展觀，深刻理解中國特色社會主義理論體系，努力用馬克思主義中國化最新成果武裝頭腦，確立起正確的世界觀、人生觀、價值觀；二是要勤奮刻苦學習。
廣大青年要在學習上下更大的氣力，要努力打牢知識基礎，要努力拓展世界眼光，要努力參加社會實踐，把“讀萬卷書”與“行萬里路”結合起來，真正成為既學識廣博又能幹實事的新一代建設人才。
三是要勇於艱苦創業。
廣大青年要煥發創業熱情和創造活力，在改革開放和社會主義現代化建設中建功立業；四是要培養高尚品德。
廣大青年要緊緊圍繞建設社會主義核心價值體系，積極參與和諧文化建設，要自覺傳承中華民族傳統美德，使中華文化的優秀傳統代代相傳，使黨和人民在長期奮鬥中形成的光榮傳統薪火永續。
胡錦濤強調，在現階段，党需要共青團更好地團結帶領廣大團員青年，各級團組織一定要發揚“党有號召、團有行動”的優良傳統，把廣大青年緊緊團結在党的周圍，為實現党的任務努力奮鬥，保證党的事業興旺發達、後繼有人。
胡錦濤對團幹部提出三點要求：一是政治上要過硬；二是作風上要紮實；三是自律上要嚴格，著力加強自身修養，從嚴要求，防微杜漸，經得住誘惑，管得住小節，切實走好人生的每一步。
座談會前，胡錦濤等中國中央領導同志來到代表們中間，同他們一一握手、交談。
馬曉燕代表是四川省北川羌族自治縣團委書記，這次大地震發生後，她強忍失去親人的悲痛，組織團員青年營救被困人員，夜以繼日地轉移災民。
胡錦濤動情地對她說，你在這次抗震救災中表現得非常突出。
回去以後，請轉達我對災區廣大團員青年的親切問候。
希望災區各級團組織積極帶領廣大團員青年，在恢復重建中繼續發揮生力軍和突擊隊作用，為黨和人民再立新功。
星島環球網
2008-06-15
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
virginity pledges = abstinence education program
Teen survey shows virginity pledges can work
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TO PLEDGE OR NOT TO PLEDGE?
About a quarter of 1,517 12- to 17-year olds surveyed in 2001 said they had taken a virginity pledge. Percentage who had sex within three years:
Pledgers: 34%
Non-pledgers: 42%
Source: RAND Corp. study
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6: Study: Flip-flops aren't feet-friendly
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Virginity pledges do deter some teens from having sex, according to a study by the RAND Corp. that surveyed teen virgins over three years to see whether they stayed that way.
Of 1,517 adolescents ages 12 to 17 in 2001 when the research began, teenagers who vowed to remain virgins until they were married were less likely to be sexually active than others who didn't make a pledge.
About one-quarter of the adolescents surveyed (23.8%) made a promise to wait until marriage to have sex; 34% had broken it by 2004, compared with 42% of those who didn't make the pledge and had sex during that time.
Those who pledged and those who didn't had similar responses in the telephone survey on questions about their parents' disapproval of sex, their self-esteem, their perceived peer approval of sex and their parental monitoring, among others.
Among those already inclined to delay sexual activity, the pledge may have served as extra protection, says RAND psychologist Steven Martino of Pittsburgh, the study's lead author.
"If it's your intention as a teen to not have sex, it's perhaps a good idea to make a pledge because you're more likely to delay sex if you do so and not more likely to engage in other sexual behaviors as a substitute," he says.
"But that's not to say virginity pledges should substitute for comprehensive sex education, because a majority of teens do have sex, and even among teens who take virginity pledges, many of them have sex," Martino says.
Valerie Huber, executive director of the National Abstinence Education Association, which supports abstinence-only sex education, disagrees.
"A lot of people would say a virginity pledge is an equivalent to an abstinence education program. It's certainly not," she says. "It's a single event with a personal commitment, but there's often not follow-up.
"We think abstinence education is a natural reinforcement of this personal decision they have made."
The new analysis, published online in the Journal of Adolescent Health in advance of print publication in September, is the latest attempt to determine whether virginity pledges are effective. Some studies suggest they do help postpone first-time sex among teens, and other research suggests they don't. Also, there are questions about how truthful teens are when answering questions about sex.
"There is conflicting data on the worth" of pledges, Martino says.
He says his research took into account characteristics shared between those who made the pledge and those who didn't, so the major difference between them was taking the pledge.
Although virginity pledges appear to make a difference for some teens, Martino says, they probably don't do the same for adolescents overall.
Past research has found that 23% of teenage girls and 16% of boys have made a virginity pledge.
Updated 2h 40m ago | Comments4 | Recommend1 E-mail | Save | Print | Reprints & Permissions |
TO PLEDGE OR NOT TO PLEDGE?
About a quarter of 1,517 12- to 17-year olds surveyed in 2001 said they had taken a virginity pledge. Percentage who had sex within three years:
Pledgers: 34%
Non-pledgers: 42%
Source: RAND Corp. study
YOU CLICKED: WEEK'S MOST POPULAR HEALTH STORIES
1: Tomato-linked salmonella strikes about 150
2: A mother's gamble pays off: Boy whose skin can't attach is healing
3: Aggressive type 2 diabetes treatment questioned
4: More singles find love, marriage after age 45
5: Teen risk report finds Hispanics lagging
6: Study: Flip-flops aren't feet-friendly
No. 7-10: Incontinence, young sports injuries
Yahoo! Buzz Digg Newsvine Reddit FacebookWhat's this?By Sharon Jayson, USA TODAY
Virginity pledges do deter some teens from having sex, according to a study by the RAND Corp. that surveyed teen virgins over three years to see whether they stayed that way.
Of 1,517 adolescents ages 12 to 17 in 2001 when the research began, teenagers who vowed to remain virgins until they were married were less likely to be sexually active than others who didn't make a pledge.
About one-quarter of the adolescents surveyed (23.8%) made a promise to wait until marriage to have sex; 34% had broken it by 2004, compared with 42% of those who didn't make the pledge and had sex during that time.
Those who pledged and those who didn't had similar responses in the telephone survey on questions about their parents' disapproval of sex, their self-esteem, their perceived peer approval of sex and their parental monitoring, among others.
Among those already inclined to delay sexual activity, the pledge may have served as extra protection, says RAND psychologist Steven Martino of Pittsburgh, the study's lead author.
"If it's your intention as a teen to not have sex, it's perhaps a good idea to make a pledge because you're more likely to delay sex if you do so and not more likely to engage in other sexual behaviors as a substitute," he says.
"But that's not to say virginity pledges should substitute for comprehensive sex education, because a majority of teens do have sex, and even among teens who take virginity pledges, many of them have sex," Martino says.
Valerie Huber, executive director of the National Abstinence Education Association, which supports abstinence-only sex education, disagrees.
"A lot of people would say a virginity pledge is an equivalent to an abstinence education program. It's certainly not," she says. "It's a single event with a personal commitment, but there's often not follow-up.
"We think abstinence education is a natural reinforcement of this personal decision they have made."
The new analysis, published online in the Journal of Adolescent Health in advance of print publication in September, is the latest attempt to determine whether virginity pledges are effective. Some studies suggest they do help postpone first-time sex among teens, and other research suggests they don't. Also, there are questions about how truthful teens are when answering questions about sex.
"There is conflicting data on the worth" of pledges, Martino says.
He says his research took into account characteristics shared between those who made the pledge and those who didn't, so the major difference between them was taking the pledge.
Although virginity pledges appear to make a difference for some teens, Martino says, they probably don't do the same for adolescents overall.
Past research has found that 23% of teenage girls and 16% of boys have made a virginity pledge.
don't ask don't tell policy
Yahoo! Buzz Digg Newsvine Reddit FacebookWhat's this?By Anne Flaherty, Associated Press
WASHINGTON — Democrats say the nation should be ashamed of its ban on gays serving openly in the military. It discourages qualified people from joining the ranks at a time when the armed forces are stretched by two wars, they say, and is degrading to those willing to serve their country.
So what have the Democrats done about it? Nothing, really.
Since taking control of Congress in January 2007, Democrats have not convened hearings on the matter or taken up legislation that would let gays serve openly, although most party members favor repealing the prohibition. Instead, Democrats have focused their efforts on bringing troops home from Iraq and other issues that have broad appeal among voters, such as lowering gas prices.
In a recent interview with The Advocate, a gay newsmagazine, Democrat Barack Obama stopped short of promising to lead the way for change, saying only that he can "reasonably see" a repeal of the current ban if elected president.
Indeed, the gays-in-the-military issue has slid from being a top campaign pledge of President Clinton's to a footnote on the Democratic agenda even as some of its staunchest opponents soften their rhetoric and acknowledge that the nation's attitudes are changing.
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"Politics is often driven by risk aversion and fear and that's big," said Nathaniel Frank, a senior research fellow at The Michael D. Palm Center in Santa Barbara, Calif., who supports eliminating the ban. "There are people who don't want to be out front on this."
The reluctance is in large part a result of Clinton's painful experience. As one of his first acts as president, Clinton sought to make good on his 1992 campaign pledge to open the military to gays. His effort to change the law eventually gave way to the current "don't ask, don't tell" policy — but not before debate on the issue divided his party, awakened a fierce social conservative movement and helped GOP critics cast Clinton as a social liberal who was woefully out of touch with the military.
"Don't ask, don't tell" is intended to keep the military from asking recruits their sexual orientation. In turn, service members can't say they are gay or bisexual, engage in homosexual activity or marry a member of the same sex.
WASHINGTON — Democrats say the nation should be ashamed of its ban on gays serving openly in the military. It discourages qualified people from joining the ranks at a time when the armed forces are stretched by two wars, they say, and is degrading to those willing to serve their country.
So what have the Democrats done about it? Nothing, really.
Since taking control of Congress in January 2007, Democrats have not convened hearings on the matter or taken up legislation that would let gays serve openly, although most party members favor repealing the prohibition. Instead, Democrats have focused their efforts on bringing troops home from Iraq and other issues that have broad appeal among voters, such as lowering gas prices.
In a recent interview with The Advocate, a gay newsmagazine, Democrat Barack Obama stopped short of promising to lead the way for change, saying only that he can "reasonably see" a repeal of the current ban if elected president.
Indeed, the gays-in-the-military issue has slid from being a top campaign pledge of President Clinton's to a footnote on the Democratic agenda even as some of its staunchest opponents soften their rhetoric and acknowledge that the nation's attitudes are changing.
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"Politics is often driven by risk aversion and fear and that's big," said Nathaniel Frank, a senior research fellow at The Michael D. Palm Center in Santa Barbara, Calif., who supports eliminating the ban. "There are people who don't want to be out front on this."
The reluctance is in large part a result of Clinton's painful experience. As one of his first acts as president, Clinton sought to make good on his 1992 campaign pledge to open the military to gays. His effort to change the law eventually gave way to the current "don't ask, don't tell" policy — but not before debate on the issue divided his party, awakened a fierce social conservative movement and helped GOP critics cast Clinton as a social liberal who was woefully out of touch with the military.
"Don't ask, don't tell" is intended to keep the military from asking recruits their sexual orientation. In turn, service members can't say they are gay or bisexual, engage in homosexual activity or marry a member of the same sex.
Sunday, June 8, 2008
why god allow sin
cos sinner always appreciate what god does / did [forgive] him/her
sinner may repeat but sinner does appreciate more than non-sinner
dissease exist so as to alert people health
tragedy comes so as to remind people how beautiful the world is
nobody want illness [which may prevent alien attack]
nobody want tragedy [unfair for victims, but life is unpredictable]
it is also a process of repenting and forgiving lesson
sinner may repeat but sinner does appreciate more than non-sinner
dissease exist so as to alert people health
tragedy comes so as to remind people how beautiful the world is
nobody want illness [which may prevent alien attack]
nobody want tragedy [unfair for victims, but life is unpredictable]
it is also a process of repenting and forgiving lesson
Wednesday, May 14, 2008
当机立断
第1招：隔山打虎
这一招的要点是学会与别人合作，而不是什么事情都亲自去做。因为你不可能是位全才，要学会不纠缠于鸡毛蒜皮的小事。巨大的财富通常是有眼光的帅才同多才多艺的智者通力合作的结果，真正的赚钱高手通常是善于利用别人的能力赚钱的人。凡事亲力亲为只会分散你的精力，使你无法对全局作出判断。
“劳心者治人，劳力者治于人”，这话老祖宗早就说过了，要不你看不论是在古时候还是现在，怎么那么多人都喜欢当官呢？利用别人成就自己并不一定觉得难受，从另一方面说你也是在帮助别人。
第2招：当机立断
要赚钱必须果断，学会迅速地审时度势。快速决断能够使你占据领先优势，拖拖拉拉、畏首畏尾、不敢决断是赚钱之大忌，这会让你一次次贻误良机。
“机不可失时不再来”，机会于我们不会象电视里面的医药广告一样铺天盖地，更何况是赚钱的机会，记住只有自己走出去了才能有成功的机会，否则是一点希望也没有，这就是道理。
第3招：穷追猛打
成功者往往是持之以恒、埋头苦干的人，一个专心于目标并致力于此的人。做事有头无尾，遇到一点挫折就退缩是不可能获得成功的。要赚钱就不能怕辛苦，如此则成功可期。
持之以恒方能成就大事业这个道理大家都懂，但在现实当中我们有些人迫于生活所迫不能坚持，往往离成功就差那么一小步，询问那些成功的人，他们都是尝尽苦中苦之人，在一次次失败中跌倒而后又爬起来重新开始并最终成功的人。
第4招：眼观六路
这一招的要点在于注意与善于观察，对新观点、新事物要保持敏锐的头脑。可随身携带一个简便的本子，随时记下你发现的生财之道，有时间的时候加以整理，就会发现几个方法合在一起，就得出有价值的方案，然后迅速开始实施你的计划。
现在的发财信息很多，要善于甄别，选自己喜欢和熟悉的行业来做是不错的选择，多看多问多听，这样能够避免多走弯路。
第5招：胆大心细
你必须认识冒险是有代价的。要知道世界上绝没有万无一失的赚钱之道。所谓“赚钱的生意不要抢”。盲目随大势，贸然作决定都是不可取的。要避免失败，就要处处小心，躲开可能碰到的陷阱。
什么事情都不能太过，胆大是要胆大，但后面还有个心细，其实胆大与心细人们有时候很难做到，胆大的人不一定心细，心细的人不一定胆大，我的理解的胆大是宏观处理大事，心细是微观处理小事，如果你能做到处理大事的时候有处理小事的心理那么认真就够了。
第6招：借鸡下蛋
借钱赚钱，借鸡下蛋不丢人。赚钱的机会稍纵即逝，所以当机会来了，你一时又没有资本时，看准了不妨借钱出击。死守着有一分钱花一分钱的老观念将难成大事。
现今社会，能借到钱是本事，借不到钱是没有本事，借到钱后知道怎么花是本事，借到钱后不知道怎么花是没事找事。
第7招：动如脱兔
无论在任何时候都要有时间观念，决定做一件事情以后，行动要迅速，绝不能把今天的事留到明天去做。时间就是金钱，拖沓的作风是赚钱的天敌，行动不敏捷很难适应现代市场的竞争。
市场就如同打仗，我们需要攻克一个又一个的阵地，你不去攻就会被别人攻取，到时候想要抢回来恐怕会需要更大的代价，所以决定了要夺取的市场是越早攻取越好。
第8招：创意制胜
努力开发你的创造力，围绕你的事业让思维不受拘束地展开联想。经营最可靠的是创意，一个好点子、好创意往往能使你的经营之路柳暗花明，财富属于那些具有创意而又能把新观念付诸行动的人！
这一招的要点是学会与别人合作，而不是什么事情都亲自去做。因为你不可能是位全才，要学会不纠缠于鸡毛蒜皮的小事。巨大的财富通常是有眼光的帅才同多才多艺的智者通力合作的结果，真正的赚钱高手通常是善于利用别人的能力赚钱的人。凡事亲力亲为只会分散你的精力，使你无法对全局作出判断。
“劳心者治人，劳力者治于人”，这话老祖宗早就说过了，要不你看不论是在古时候还是现在，怎么那么多人都喜欢当官呢？利用别人成就自己并不一定觉得难受，从另一方面说你也是在帮助别人。
第2招：当机立断
要赚钱必须果断，学会迅速地审时度势。快速决断能够使你占据领先优势，拖拖拉拉、畏首畏尾、不敢决断是赚钱之大忌，这会让你一次次贻误良机。
“机不可失时不再来”，机会于我们不会象电视里面的医药广告一样铺天盖地，更何况是赚钱的机会，记住只有自己走出去了才能有成功的机会，否则是一点希望也没有，这就是道理。
第3招：穷追猛打
成功者往往是持之以恒、埋头苦干的人，一个专心于目标并致力于此的人。做事有头无尾，遇到一点挫折就退缩是不可能获得成功的。要赚钱就不能怕辛苦，如此则成功可期。
持之以恒方能成就大事业这个道理大家都懂，但在现实当中我们有些人迫于生活所迫不能坚持，往往离成功就差那么一小步，询问那些成功的人，他们都是尝尽苦中苦之人，在一次次失败中跌倒而后又爬起来重新开始并最终成功的人。
第4招：眼观六路
这一招的要点在于注意与善于观察，对新观点、新事物要保持敏锐的头脑。可随身携带一个简便的本子，随时记下你发现的生财之道，有时间的时候加以整理，就会发现几个方法合在一起，就得出有价值的方案，然后迅速开始实施你的计划。
现在的发财信息很多，要善于甄别，选自己喜欢和熟悉的行业来做是不错的选择，多看多问多听，这样能够避免多走弯路。
第5招：胆大心细
你必须认识冒险是有代价的。要知道世界上绝没有万无一失的赚钱之道。所谓“赚钱的生意不要抢”。盲目随大势，贸然作决定都是不可取的。要避免失败，就要处处小心，躲开可能碰到的陷阱。
什么事情都不能太过，胆大是要胆大，但后面还有个心细，其实胆大与心细人们有时候很难做到，胆大的人不一定心细，心细的人不一定胆大，我的理解的胆大是宏观处理大事，心细是微观处理小事，如果你能做到处理大事的时候有处理小事的心理那么认真就够了。
第6招：借鸡下蛋
借钱赚钱，借鸡下蛋不丢人。赚钱的机会稍纵即逝，所以当机会来了，你一时又没有资本时，看准了不妨借钱出击。死守着有一分钱花一分钱的老观念将难成大事。
现今社会，能借到钱是本事，借不到钱是没有本事，借到钱后知道怎么花是本事，借到钱后不知道怎么花是没事找事。
第7招：动如脱兔
无论在任何时候都要有时间观念，决定做一件事情以后，行动要迅速，绝不能把今天的事留到明天去做。时间就是金钱，拖沓的作风是赚钱的天敌，行动不敏捷很难适应现代市场的竞争。
市场就如同打仗，我们需要攻克一个又一个的阵地，你不去攻就会被别人攻取，到时候想要抢回来恐怕会需要更大的代价，所以决定了要夺取的市场是越早攻取越好。
第8招：创意制胜
努力开发你的创造力，围绕你的事业让思维不受拘束地展开联想。经营最可靠的是创意，一个好点子、好创意往往能使你的经营之路柳暗花明，财富属于那些具有创意而又能把新观念付诸行动的人！
Sunday, April 27, 2008
茯苓：性平，味甘，健脾益胃，祛濕消腫
【明報專訊】中醫學關於養生食療的理論十分豐富，順時養生更為重要。《黃帝內經》曰：「故智者之養生也，必順四時而適寒暑……如是，則僻邪不至，長生久視。」飲食補充營養，這是人所共識，但具體來說可以很有學問。食物對人體的調養作用是身體健康的重要保證，合理地安排飲食，可使氣血充足，五臟六腑功能旺盛，不單能提高對自然界變化的應變能力，也能提升對疾病的抵禦能力。
所謂「藥食同源」，食物也有寒熱溫涼之分。合適的飲食，不但保證機體健康，也是預防疾病的重要措施。
時令穀雨，乃春天最後一個節氣。《月令七十二候集解》曰：「三月中，自雨水後，土膏脈動，今又雨其穀於水也。蓋穀以此時播種，自上而下也。」這時天氣溫和，雨水明顯增多。香港屬嶺南地區，雨水較多，故濕氣亦較重，而濕邪為患，易傷脾胃，食療原則應以祛濕健脾為主。
推薦食材有茯苓、赤小豆、苡仁、鯽魚：
茯苓：性平，味甘，健脾益胃，祛濕消腫
赤小豆：性平，味甘酸，健脾利水，清熱解毒
苡仁：性涼，味甘淡，健脾祛濕，利水消腫
鯽魚：性平，味甘，健脾益氣，利水通乳
茯苓赤小豆苡仁湯（4人分量）
材料：茯苓20克、赤小豆50克、生苡仁100克、白鯽魚250克、生薑5片、陳皮絲少許
製法：先將鯽魚用油略煎，再將上述食材一併放進砂鍋，用中火煮1.5小時，調味後即可飲用（白鯽魚可放在煲湯袋內，以防魚骨傷喉）
註：以上藥膳食譜僅供參考，如有疑問可先諮詢註冊中醫師
文﹕基督教聯合那打素社康服務
基督教聯合中醫服務暨香港中文大學 中醫臨教研中心註冊中醫師 鍾啟福
所謂「藥食同源」，食物也有寒熱溫涼之分。合適的飲食，不但保證機體健康，也是預防疾病的重要措施。
時令穀雨，乃春天最後一個節氣。《月令七十二候集解》曰：「三月中，自雨水後，土膏脈動，今又雨其穀於水也。蓋穀以此時播種，自上而下也。」這時天氣溫和，雨水明顯增多。香港屬嶺南地區，雨水較多，故濕氣亦較重，而濕邪為患，易傷脾胃，食療原則應以祛濕健脾為主。
推薦食材有茯苓、赤小豆、苡仁、鯽魚：
茯苓：性平，味甘，健脾益胃，祛濕消腫
赤小豆：性平，味甘酸，健脾利水，清熱解毒
苡仁：性涼，味甘淡，健脾祛濕，利水消腫
鯽魚：性平，味甘，健脾益氣，利水通乳
茯苓赤小豆苡仁湯（4人分量）
材料：茯苓20克、赤小豆50克、生苡仁100克、白鯽魚250克、生薑5片、陳皮絲少許
製法：先將鯽魚用油略煎，再將上述食材一併放進砂鍋，用中火煮1.5小時，調味後即可飲用（白鯽魚可放在煲湯袋內，以防魚骨傷喉）
註：以上藥膳食譜僅供參考，如有疑問可先諮詢註冊中醫師
文﹕基督教聯合那打素社康服務
基督教聯合中醫服務暨香港中文大學 中醫臨教研中心註冊中醫師 鍾啟福
Monday, April 21, 2008
「高人一等」的意識和心態
「苦澀門」可能成為轉折點
賓夕法尼亞州民主黨初選將於4月22日舉行，如果希拉莉在賓州敗下陣來，她就失去了最後一線獲勝的希望。就在這個關鍵時刻，奧巴馬禍從口出，鑄下大錯。在4月11日三藩市的一個集會上，奧巴馬形容賓州和其他中部地區小城市的美國人「因為失業後的苦澀生活，就把生活希望寄托在槍械、宗教，或者怨恨那些和他們不一樣的人」。
奧巴馬似乎忘記了，作為一個超級熱門的總統候選人，自己在公開場合說的每一句話都會很快在全國範圍內傳播。奧巴馬的這種言論類似於在大城市人面前嘲笑農村人的生活習慣，犯了眾怒。更嚴重的是，那些被奧巴馬嘲笑的農村人將在10天以後投票，決定他是否可以「宜將剩勇追窮寇」，將希拉莉的選舉人氣徹底擊垮。
「苦澀門」事件發生後，賓州選民的民調數據立刻出現戲劇性變化。據「美國研究集團」抽樣民調發現，「苦澀門」事件前的4月5日至6日，奧巴馬和希拉莉基本打成平手，各得45%的支持率，而在「苦澀門」事件後的11日至13日，奧巴馬的支持率下降到37%，希拉莉的支持率則上升到57%。如果這樣的民調數據可以延續到22日，希拉莉就可以在賓州的民主黨初選中獲得壓倒性優勢，在人氣指數上扳回重要一局。
在奧巴馬的負面言論中，重點涉及以下幾個詞：藍領工人，特別是其中的失業者；槍械；宗教及他本人比選民「高人一等」的精英意識。錯誤觸及了這些詞中的每一條都是美國政治的高壓線。首先，賓州歷來以藍領階級，特別是傳統上的鋼鐵工人和中部小鎮居民出名。近年來，藍領階層日子不好過，統計顯示，83%的賓州人認為他們的財政情況沒去年好。奧巴馬一方面以勞苦大眾的代表自居，一方面卻又譏諷了生活最辛苦的失業藍領，於情於理都說不通。
其次，奧巴馬觸及了非常敏感的宗教話題，這是美國政治中最嚴肅的話題，也是最不能開玩笑和嘲笑的話題。奧巴馬話語中隱藏的邏輯和信息是：小鎮居民在失業和生活困難的時候才去信教，這無異於聲稱小鎮居民要麼根本原來就不是虔誠的教徒，要麼就是他們去教會是因為他們想發泄心中的不滿。71%的賓州人信仰宗教，他們會怎麼看待奧巴馬的思維，結論可想而知。
再次，槍械管制也是美國政治的最敏感話題之一。多年來關於是否禁槍的討論始終是美國各類選舉的重要辯論議項，甚至於全美最大的遊說集團之一就是全美槍支協會。賓州35%的人口家里（或者附近）擁有槍械，去野外打獵本身就是他們生活休閒中的一部分。現如今奧巴馬隨意批評指責他們固有的生活方式，當然會引起民眾反感。
最關鍵的還是奧巴馬骨子裏透出的比選民「高人一等」的意識和心態，這種心態很容易引起平民大眾的反感。奧巴馬說自己當年也是領食品救助券的苦孩子，言外之意自己一直牢記階級情，不忘階級恨。但是他實質上從小在名校就讀，是哈佛畢業生，所受教育背景與根深蒂固的精英意識莫不相關。所以，奧巴馬在「苦澀門」事件中表現出的精英意識，可能就是他自身教育背景的潛意識流出。
賓夕法尼亞州民主黨初選將於4月22日舉行，如果希拉莉在賓州敗下陣來，她就失去了最後一線獲勝的希望。就在這個關鍵時刻，奧巴馬禍從口出，鑄下大錯。在4月11日三藩市的一個集會上，奧巴馬形容賓州和其他中部地區小城市的美國人「因為失業後的苦澀生活，就把生活希望寄托在槍械、宗教，或者怨恨那些和他們不一樣的人」。
奧巴馬似乎忘記了，作為一個超級熱門的總統候選人，自己在公開場合說的每一句話都會很快在全國範圍內傳播。奧巴馬的這種言論類似於在大城市人面前嘲笑農村人的生活習慣，犯了眾怒。更嚴重的是，那些被奧巴馬嘲笑的農村人將在10天以後投票，決定他是否可以「宜將剩勇追窮寇」，將希拉莉的選舉人氣徹底擊垮。
「苦澀門」事件發生後，賓州選民的民調數據立刻出現戲劇性變化。據「美國研究集團」抽樣民調發現，「苦澀門」事件前的4月5日至6日，奧巴馬和希拉莉基本打成平手，各得45%的支持率，而在「苦澀門」事件後的11日至13日，奧巴馬的支持率下降到37%，希拉莉的支持率則上升到57%。如果這樣的民調數據可以延續到22日，希拉莉就可以在賓州的民主黨初選中獲得壓倒性優勢，在人氣指數上扳回重要一局。
在奧巴馬的負面言論中，重點涉及以下幾個詞：藍領工人，特別是其中的失業者；槍械；宗教及他本人比選民「高人一等」的精英意識。錯誤觸及了這些詞中的每一條都是美國政治的高壓線。首先，賓州歷來以藍領階級，特別是傳統上的鋼鐵工人和中部小鎮居民出名。近年來，藍領階層日子不好過，統計顯示，83%的賓州人認為他們的財政情況沒去年好。奧巴馬一方面以勞苦大眾的代表自居，一方面卻又譏諷了生活最辛苦的失業藍領，於情於理都說不通。
其次，奧巴馬觸及了非常敏感的宗教話題，這是美國政治中最嚴肅的話題，也是最不能開玩笑和嘲笑的話題。奧巴馬話語中隱藏的邏輯和信息是：小鎮居民在失業和生活困難的時候才去信教，這無異於聲稱小鎮居民要麼根本原來就不是虔誠的教徒，要麼就是他們去教會是因為他們想發泄心中的不滿。71%的賓州人信仰宗教，他們會怎麼看待奧巴馬的思維，結論可想而知。
再次，槍械管制也是美國政治的最敏感話題之一。多年來關於是否禁槍的討論始終是美國各類選舉的重要辯論議項，甚至於全美最大的遊說集團之一就是全美槍支協會。賓州35%的人口家里（或者附近）擁有槍械，去野外打獵本身就是他們生活休閒中的一部分。現如今奧巴馬隨意批評指責他們固有的生活方式，當然會引起民眾反感。
最關鍵的還是奧巴馬骨子裏透出的比選民「高人一等」的意識和心態，這種心態很容易引起平民大眾的反感。奧巴馬說自己當年也是領食品救助券的苦孩子，言外之意自己一直牢記階級情，不忘階級恨。但是他實質上從小在名校就讀，是哈佛畢業生，所受教育背景與根深蒂固的精英意識莫不相關。所以，奧巴馬在「苦澀門」事件中表現出的精英意識，可能就是他自身教育背景的潛意識流出。
Saturday, April 19, 2008
all you can do is all you can do but
all you can do is enough...
2nd book finished after the rich dad poor dad
comment:
life give you whatever you accept
life give you what u fight for; u have got to show up and fight for it
90% of people is being excited for 3 days, some for 3 months; only winner for 3 years
obstacle simply a course to develope achievement muscle
motivation is everything
2nd book finished after the rich dad poor dad
comment:
life give you whatever you accept
life give you what u fight for; u have got to show up and fight for it
90% of people is being excited for 3 days, some for 3 months; only winner for 3 years
obstacle simply a course to develope achievement muscle
motivation is everything
Monday, March 17, 2008
2 guy walks up, drop bag, argue, quit but finally lose key
2 guys walks up on stairs due to broken elevator,
drop bag, argue, quit but finally left key in the bag
are
analogous
drop dream, debating at work, giveUp everything when old, but finally have no access to heaven too
amazing stories from danny always 03/16/08sun
drop bag, argue, quit but finally left key in the bag
are
analogous
drop dream, debating at work, giveUp everything when old, but finally have no access to heaven too
amazing stories from danny always 03/16/08sun
god let me this and that
me as a father let JJ enjoy this and that
cos i bring keynes to his life and keynes boyfriend johanna play joyfully with him
b/c he respect me
so JJ have fun while walking
but does JJ know that all because of his respectful dad and mum?
likewise
i have all i got today b/c of God..
cos i bring keynes to his life and keynes boyfriend johanna play joyfully with him
b/c he respect me
so JJ have fun while walking
but does JJ know that all because of his respectful dad and mum?
likewise
i have all i got today b/c of God..
Wednesday, February 20, 2008
人生如浮萍，聚散無常
朋友
林天岳 2008年2月20日
廣 告
我們生活在社會共同的空間上，不能沒有朋友，我們注重友情，因為友情是永恆的流水，流過人生的路程，一路灌溉?路邊生意盎然的芳草。友誼像美麗芬芳的花朵，把生命點綴得燦爛豐盈。友誼又像一枝出污泥而不染的白蓮，超然翹立於世俗羈絆之上。友誼如水月，彼此相映成輝，互相給予對方真正的幫助，真正的快樂，所以我們不可以一天沒有朋友。
我珍惜人生中每一次的相逢，天地間的每一分溫暖，朋友的每一句知心的呼喚，每一聲懇切的激勵。
唐朝大詩人杜甫之於李白，見面時的親切，分手後的思念，成為千古友情的至高表現。
我們從小相識的，小學中學大學的同窗，後來在社會認識的，或在工作上認識的，愈來愈多，於是什麼恩怨情仇，都從這個圈子裏不斷發生，人間許許多多的悲喜劇，也就在上演不絕。人的一生可能交到的知心朋友，但由於時空的交錯，不可能天天見面，甚至是暌違兩地，書信也無法往還，「十年生死兩茫茫」！
聽到傳聞，或看到訃告，有些已從世界之中消失，留給我們的，是無窮無盡的悲愴！
很不幸，有些可能已經反臉成仇，再不是朋友。有些是雖不成仇，但已「話不投機」，大家相見爭如不見，再不願意繼續往來。有些是變了雙方地位懸殊，格格不相入，遺棄了這一位當年共同打天下的患難之交。更可憐的，有些可能年老力衰，與病魔搏鬥，躺在醫院的病床上，無人照料，渴望我們前往探訪，以慰寂聊，此種心境值得同情。
十年人事幾翻新，環顧當前情境，能夠留下時常見面的朋友已不多，二十年下來，未必還有很多，三十年下來，可能更少。
我們常說：「人生如浮萍，聚散無常」，應該這樣看法，「散」是有常，有時因種種關係，不得不散，而「聚」，很多時候，不過是偶然，所以我們相識相聚，正如佛家所說的「緣」，實在要好好珍惜。
林天岳 2008年2月20日
廣 告
我們生活在社會共同的空間上，不能沒有朋友，我們注重友情，因為友情是永恆的流水，流過人生的路程，一路灌溉?路邊生意盎然的芳草。友誼像美麗芬芳的花朵，把生命點綴得燦爛豐盈。友誼又像一枝出污泥而不染的白蓮，超然翹立於世俗羈絆之上。友誼如水月，彼此相映成輝，互相給予對方真正的幫助，真正的快樂，所以我們不可以一天沒有朋友。
我珍惜人生中每一次的相逢，天地間的每一分溫暖，朋友的每一句知心的呼喚，每一聲懇切的激勵。
唐朝大詩人杜甫之於李白，見面時的親切，分手後的思念，成為千古友情的至高表現。
我們從小相識的，小學中學大學的同窗，後來在社會認識的，或在工作上認識的，愈來愈多，於是什麼恩怨情仇，都從這個圈子裏不斷發生，人間許許多多的悲喜劇，也就在上演不絕。人的一生可能交到的知心朋友，但由於時空的交錯，不可能天天見面，甚至是暌違兩地，書信也無法往還，「十年生死兩茫茫」！
聽到傳聞，或看到訃告，有些已從世界之中消失，留給我們的，是無窮無盡的悲愴！
很不幸，有些可能已經反臉成仇，再不是朋友。有些是雖不成仇，但已「話不投機」，大家相見爭如不見，再不願意繼續往來。有些是變了雙方地位懸殊，格格不相入，遺棄了這一位當年共同打天下的患難之交。更可憐的，有些可能年老力衰，與病魔搏鬥，躺在醫院的病床上，無人照料，渴望我們前往探訪，以慰寂聊，此種心境值得同情。
十年人事幾翻新，環顧當前情境，能夠留下時常見面的朋友已不多，二十年下來，未必還有很多，三十年下來，可能更少。
我們常說：「人生如浮萍，聚散無常」，應該這樣看法，「散」是有常，有時因種種關係，不得不散，而「聚」，很多時候，不過是偶然，所以我們相識相聚，正如佛家所說的「緣」，實在要好好珍惜。
有自大或自卑者愛爭首席
從席次中看世情
林炳昌 2008年2月20日
廣 告
既已都有機會上台亮相了，那兩岸官員還要求什麼呢？
嘿，官員和小百姓同樣甩不掉面子的問題！
誰先上台，誰就是老大，這是政治的天秤，也是世俗的認定。從兩岸官員的爭坐首席事例中，清楚地看出大官和小民一樣有自卑的心結。
在華人社會的宴會中，亦有人時以強者的高姿態出現，坐必首席，否則退場，這往往令承辦或主辦單位感到無奈；在很久以前，在下見過三兩位這類寶貝，一位姓黃一位「三水佬」，由是可證僑社仍頗落伍。
最後說到視其人之財富，而定其席次，這種情形倒非普遍，只是某些特定的人物，有此特殊的心態，主人或主辦單位姑且遷就，邀他或她大堂中座，一來是滿足「富而驕」者的不正常心理；二來是主人或主辦單位想巴結有錢人，這便是人情世態了。
(六)
據筆者的接觸和聽聞，大多數僑胞認為聯誼性的春宴及全僑性的公宴，可以考慮不定席次的自由任便方式，以便消除人心的不滿和不平的怨氣、怒氣。
筆者在舊金山灣區社團行走三十五年，只見過一兩位雖身膺要識的華人，不往首席中鑽，一位是二十五年前中華民國派駐三藩市政府辦事處那位副處長(按：以前稱為副總領事)茅承祖，一位是立法委員吳豐?，他們從不坐首席——不管人們怎麼說，他倆便是「不敢為天下先」，愛坐在無人注意的偏傍或後角，這是他們對席次看淡的性格，也是他們的風度，說來很輕鬆，實踐不容易。但爭坐首席的男女名人頗多，只要大家細心觀察，定會知道他們是誰，說實啦，只有自大或自卑者愛爭首席。(下)
林炳昌 2008年2月20日
廣 告
既已都有機會上台亮相了，那兩岸官員還要求什麼呢？
嘿，官員和小百姓同樣甩不掉面子的問題！
誰先上台，誰就是老大，這是政治的天秤，也是世俗的認定。從兩岸官員的爭坐首席事例中，清楚地看出大官和小民一樣有自卑的心結。
在華人社會的宴會中，亦有人時以強者的高姿態出現，坐必首席，否則退場，這往往令承辦或主辦單位感到無奈；在很久以前，在下見過三兩位這類寶貝，一位姓黃一位「三水佬」，由是可證僑社仍頗落伍。
最後說到視其人之財富，而定其席次，這種情形倒非普遍，只是某些特定的人物，有此特殊的心態，主人或主辦單位姑且遷就，邀他或她大堂中座，一來是滿足「富而驕」者的不正常心理；二來是主人或主辦單位想巴結有錢人，這便是人情世態了。
(六)
據筆者的接觸和聽聞，大多數僑胞認為聯誼性的春宴及全僑性的公宴，可以考慮不定席次的自由任便方式，以便消除人心的不滿和不平的怨氣、怒氣。
筆者在舊金山灣區社團行走三十五年，只見過一兩位雖身膺要識的華人，不往首席中鑽，一位是二十五年前中華民國派駐三藩市政府辦事處那位副處長(按：以前稱為副總領事)茅承祖，一位是立法委員吳豐?，他們從不坐首席——不管人們怎麼說，他倆便是「不敢為天下先」，愛坐在無人注意的偏傍或後角，這是他們對席次看淡的性格，也是他們的風度，說來很輕鬆，實踐不容易。但爭坐首席的男女名人頗多，只要大家細心觀察，定會知道他們是誰，說實啦，只有自大或自卑者愛爭首席。(下)
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